Briz stayed home today to help with house projects. I don't think he loves them, he has to wait to get his courage up or something, then he goes crazy and works really hard. What I love is that he knows that it is my love language. A caulked and painted window trim does more to bind me romanticly than roses, dinner and a movie.
We took advantage of the two hours Sunshine was in preschool to sneak away to lunch at Haggerman's Bakery. I admit, I had an ulterior motive. I want to start studying my husband again. Somewhere over the last 12 years, I've come to the unconscious conclusion that I know all there is to know about this complex and interesting human being.
Over a Turkey Pomadoro Sandwich, I began my interogation. "What did you want to accomplish by now that you haven't accomplished?" I had a whole arsonal of questions waiting, but surprisingly, this one question started a beautiful discusion that helped us set some goals for the future but more importantly, gave me a greater appreciation for the content and happy man I am linked to.
"I have most everything I wanted. I wanted a nice home, to be a good Dad, to have a lovely wife... I've got all that. I did want to be further along spiritually, but I'm back on track. The only thing I'd like more is a cabin to escape with you to. I know if I asked you the same question, you'd have hundreds of lofty goals you haven't yet achieved but I'm not like that."
We talked and planned cabins, locations, finances. Hours later, I was still so pleased with being bonded to a man that is content. It is such a joy to know that I am enough... that the kids are enough, that our home is enough. My husband is not out there looking for fulfillment, he already has it in simple things.