Sunday, January 17, 2010

Lunch at Haggerman's

Briz stayed home today to help with house projects.  I don't think he loves them, he has to wait to get his courage up or something, then he goes crazy and works really hard.  What I love is that he knows that it is my love language.  A caulked and painted window trim does more to bind me romanticly than roses, dinner and a movie.  

We took advantage of the two hours Sunshine was in preschool to sneak away to lunch at Haggerman's Bakery.  I admit, I had an ulterior motive.  I want to start studying my husband again.  Somewhere over the last 12 years, I've come to the unconscious conclusion that I know all there is to know about this complex and interesting human being.  

Over a Turkey Pomadoro Sandwich, I began my interogation.  "What did you want to accomplish by now that you haven't accomplished?"  I had a whole arsonal of questions waiting, but surprisingly, this one question started a beautiful discusion that helped us set some goals for the future but more importantly, gave me a greater appreciation for the content and happy man I am linked to.  

"I have most everything I wanted.  I wanted a nice home, to be a good Dad, to have a lovely wife... I've got all that.  I did want to be further along spiritually, but I'm back on track.  The only thing I'd like more is a cabin to escape with you to.  I know if I asked you the same question, you'd have hundreds of lofty goals you haven't yet achieved but I'm not like that."

We talked and planned cabins, locations, finances.  Hours later, I was still so pleased with being bonded to a man that is content.  It is such a joy to know that I am enough... that the kids are enough, that our home is enough.  My husband is not out there looking for fulfillment, he already has it in simple things. 


  1. Lunch time dates are the best! Your love language sounds like mine....Sounds like the perfect day!